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Hey friends, intro incoming:

I'm a 20-something who thinks a lot. I'll be sharing thoughts and writing here.

Also, I love a lot of things. In no particular order: cats (mine and all), plants, reading, dogs (mine and all), animals, plants, mountains, snow, video games (currently Overwatch), husband (just mine), productivity, self improvement, communication skills, colors, feelings, mom (mine and all), empaths, Totoro, gnomes, cherries, Head Space app, Kung Pow, silence.

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Semantics matter but they also don't.

When arguing, you can get hung up on words and angrily point at them while missing the point of real connection and conversation.

But it also matters wholy because without accurate words, how can we hope to understand each other.

The point is to learn which one is most important when.

I need to remember to be in the moment and find how that actually plays out in my head. So far, it's thinking to myself 'Oh well, that thing you're worrying about isn't important to the way you want to feel and you don't have to think about it looking forward or backward in time. Just simply drop it.'

Meditation is a new skill I'm learning and it really helps with this. Thank goodness for Headspace.

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πŸ‘‰Love-based beliefs/thoughts: I am of everyone else, everyone else is of me. I forgive. I am at peace. I welcome all.

Love is freedom, of thought and of future. Love is response, not reaction. Love is the gift of living without ego, as something infinitely more.

Fear is constriction, self-imposed prison of mind & perspective. Fear is reaction, not response. Fear is ego. Fear is defense. Fear is small and fragile.

Choosing love brings more fear-love crossroads. Always choose love.

Fear or love.

Those are the only two options humans have for emotions. All other emotions boil down to either fear or love. They cannot exist at the same time, much like light cannot exist where there is shadow.

In every opinion you form, in every reaction, you have a choice. Is it based in love or fear?

πŸ‘‰ Fear-based beliefs/thoughts: I am better than someone. A group of people are "other/different" than me. I am angry. I hate something/someone. I feel guilty. I feel anxious.

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Always assume positive intent. No other habit has brought me such happy outcomes.

If you think too long from a victim mindset (the world happens to me, people are scheming for the worst), you will accidentally bring about the outcomes you fear.

Today I helped a friend remember this and step back from the foundations of negative thinking. That road only leads down.

βœ’οΈOn being alive vs. not 

βœ’οΈOn being alive vs. not 

βœ’οΈ Love Language for receiving but not giving? 

βœ’οΈOn Smiling cont. 

βœ’οΈOn Smiling 

βœ’οΈMotivation cont.. 

βœ’οΈMotivation cont. 

βœ’οΈMotivation: Growing up is just learning to parent yourself 

Hey friends, intro incoming:

I'm a 20-something who thinks a lot. I'll be sharing thoughts and writing here.

Also, I love a lot of things. In no particular order: cats (mine and all), plants, reading, dogs (mine and all), animals, plants, mountains, snow, video games (currently Overwatch), husband (just mine), productivity, self improvement, communication skills, colors, feelings, mom (mine and all), empaths, Totoro, gnomes, cherries, Head Space app, Kung Pow, silence.

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Strongly recommend analyzing your interpersonal conflict! It was pretty eye-opening. For example, I thought about this one specific coworker who I just cannot communicate with smoothly. I realized it is because his communication style is so different than mine that I can't tell if he likes me or not, in a coworkerly way. Why does he have to like me for me to be able to calmly and clearly communicate with him? It's because of my desire for acceptance/approval. Knowing this, I can move past it!

I discovered a few months ago that most if not all of the conflicts or problems I have, internally or externally, are the result of my acceptance/approval seeking behavior. If I could just somehow turn that off on the deepest level, my actions would naturally be more at ease and come from a place of deep honesty. πŸ€”πŸ’«

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