Thanks for writing the article @matt I switched off all notifications on my phone for the same reason then added them back on for an app only when I started to miss actions I needed to pick up or actual messages I'm interested in. This has made a big difference to reduce the annoyances. I'll be keeping an eye on your remark.as, it sounds interesting.
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