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cyberveganBeen busy this evening, with a chain-reaction of events.I got my <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/3DPrinter" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#3DPrinter</a> working again - nozzle was blocked, and I couldn't get it unblocked, so I ordered some replacement ones, which arrived nearly a week ago. For multiple reasons, I haven't had the opportunity and/or energy to fit it, until tonight. Got a great test print run off, first try with the new nozzle, so tomorrow I'll be able to set off the ~15 hour print I was trying to do when it blocked.Also been thinking about a re-spin of the <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/MakerSpace" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#MakerSpace</a> concept that hopefully won't be so fkn horrible to run. I've been ruminating on this for the last couple of years - especially since I rage-quit running my local makerspace in the summer of 2023, when I had an <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a> due to having to leave our premises because the landlord was a rogue. Tonight I was able to actually get some good ideas down, some basic principles: virtual; non-hierarchical; no committee/board; distributed inventory; premise-less; nomadic - meeting in various venues around the area; organised online (pref using something federated); self-organising; plus a bunch of other things.As a result of *that*, I ended up looking at <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/ActivityPub" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActivityPub</a> based applications, looking for things that might help with the "virtual makerspace" idea. Found three that I feel I need to check out: Hubzilla, Mobilizon, and NodeBB.Looking at those three, NodeBB stuck out as it actually mentions FreeBSD as a supported platform, so *that* made me update my <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/FreeBSD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#FreeBSD</a>-based mini-NAS, so I could test it. So I've just got it back up to scratch, because it WAS running FreeBSD 14.1-RELEASE-p5 GENERIC, but after running freebsd-update, I found it's now no longer supported. While I've been typing this, it's just finished installing 14.2-RELEASE-p3.Oh, and also been talking with my wife about how her <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/AutismAssessment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutismAssessment</a> went this evening.And posting about British Chips and Mushy Peas.

Aubrey JonesI keep breaking shit. Literally and metaphorically. And then I want to feel better, so I run to some other shit. And then I break that too because I'm impatient and distracted by my feelings of loss from the last thing.I'm trying to escape this cycle with video games (possibility of success without possibility of meaningful failure)... but Veilguard is making it hard to give a shit.<a href="https://gaygeek.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://gaygeek.social/tags/OCD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#OCD</a> <a href="https://gaygeek.social/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a> <a href="https://gaygeek.social/tags/AutisticBurnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="https://gaygeek.social/tags/Meltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Meltdown</a> <a href="https://gaygeek.social/tags/Burnout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Burnout</a>

jeanoappleseedGood morning fr <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/Pasadena" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Pasadena</a>. Went to <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/LaCrescentaValleyDogPark" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#LaCrescentaValleyDogPark</a> again this AM. Last minute decision bc tomorrow Saturday, husband has weight watchers at 7 &I cannot leave Finn alone :(After only 10 minutes <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/MosesTheServiceDog" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#MosesTheServiceDog</a> was quite tired from the running. Not a lot of other dogs, but he loves the running!I'm personally really enjoying this new dog park. I'm glad I no longer go to the Pasadena Park; too much upset, disappointment, and other issues there. It's becoming a trigger so I cannot go there for safety reasons… PLUS it's much more social that sometime I find it can become overbearing. This is a BIG change I've made to avoid meltdowns: changing dog parks. When a situation is out of control (like issues with dog park hours and lack of maintenance), but complaining makes Pasadena employees & management hostile, it's unsafe because of triggers. My complaints are fair and do not deserve hostility.Triggers can create an unsafe situation for <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> people due to the high risk of emotional meltdown. And I've found out the hard way in SoCal that most southern Californians, when confronted with an <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a>, resort to aggression and hostility. So it becomes plain dangerous. Californians aren't as relaxed as they claim to be. They are just like New Yorkers except pretending to be chill.

jeanoappleseedThank you <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/FediFriends" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#FediFriends</a> … (<a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/Fediveeps" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Fediveeps</a> or <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/Fedipeeps" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Fedipeeps</a>…?)I just took a break here & recovered from a nasty (though quiet) <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a>.Dog park trip was rough. It opens at 6am like all parks in Pasadena but for ~8 months the city has been armwrestling dog parents into a 7am opening. They even put false signs (but real hours has still posted online)... to make a long-story short it was still closed when I arrived there at 6:50am today.People were upset & said so to the staff person who called the park superintendent who came to tell us that we were racist (the staff person is black) & abusive. He said we were racial-profiling. They always say “It starts at the top" and it does.But one dog-parent snapped at me because the dog superintendent got upset at me for filming what he was saying. And this is the 2nd time that guy snaps at me in a week.I don't like people snapping at me. That's one thing many neurotypicals, on whose nerves we get on, do & I just cannot tolerate anymore. People who think it's ok to be rude an impolite to autistic people because we're annoying to them have no place in my life. So I left.And I had just started befriending that group. I’m even supposed to go to dinner w them Sat (I’d promised myself: no more friends) And now one of them I don't want to see again!

Libre :neurodiversity:Weird <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> dynamic after a self-diagnosis a year or so ago: I think I am melting down slightly less. I only say slightly because now I know I am having the meltdown and know I am getting to a meltdown point now, and they're just unavoidable. But I think a part of it is that I have <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/Alexithymia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Alexithymia</a> and I would not realize I was getting to the point of needing an <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a> to re-regulate, so I would just reach uncontrollable boiling points a bit more frequently by virtue of not realizing I am getting mad and doing something about removing myself from the triggerThat said, with the awareness I am now actually accepting of the meltdown and leaning fully into getting the emotions out now instead of trying to stifle them, and I am recovering from dysregulation way faster now which is nice (a day or two instead of stewing over it for a week), and obviously avoiding triggers more often.Makes me feel that Autism education is very, very important to people newly diagnosed, self-diagnosed or questioning. I don't think I would have learned the skills to improve my life like this without the internet communities and resources out there.

eazyI started down this path because my wife said I need to learn <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/deescalation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#deescalation</a> , but I got stuck on it seeming to be about how to handle OTHER people's emotional reactions. <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/literalthinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#literalthinking</a> bit me yet again.So, I figured out the term she meant was <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/emotionalregulation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#emotionalregulation</a>. In reading about it, the implied <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/ExecutiveFunction" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ExecutiveFunction</a> requirement made no sense to how I could possibly approach it when <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/alexithyma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#alexithyma</a> hides what I am feeling, so I'm calming down on the backside of an outburst before I realize, "wait, this recent behavior... it's not right. Am I angry?"The real problem likely is preventing an <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/autisticmeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#autisticmeltdown</a>. In any case, I think what I need are new strategies as what worked while single doesn't while married with a kid.<a href="https://autistics.life/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ADHD</a> <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://autistics.life/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#autism</a>

ideogramIn the last day my breathing has become more juddery and abrupt, I am also sighing a lot and I had a meltdown last night. <a href="https://social.coop/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#autistic</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/neurodiverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#neurodiverse</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/lgbtqi" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#lgbtqi</a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

Nicky GThere are many ways and situations that could trigger an autistic meltdown. How we feel or a type of situation or often times when we mask too long. How does an autistic meltdown feel like to you? <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#neurodiversity</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/actuallyautistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/autisticmeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#autisticmeltdown</a>

Heather Cook🖖Autistic CoachGive yourself some compassion around the meltdowns that you have had and how you struggle. You are not "bad" when this happens, it is not a choice and you’re not insufficiently trying. It is a signal that you are struggling and in distress.<a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AuDHD</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autistic</a>

Frootloops<a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Parents" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Parents</a>. Listen. Instead of reprimanding picky children for throwing a “tantrum,” look up <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/arfid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#arfid</a> and consider other legitimate causes. Then ffs stop starving them thinking it will one day grant them new food preferences and not just complex trauma. It will *only* grant them complex trauma. While you’re at it, stop referring to <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/meltdowns" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#meltdowns</a> as tantrums. <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/AutisticFood" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticFood</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/actuallyautistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/audhd" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#audhd</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/disorderedeating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#disorderedeating</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/pickyeater" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#pickyeater</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/SensoryIssues" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SensoryIssues</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a>

Juniper (she/they) 🏳️‍🌈2023 starting off swimmingly with a full blown <a href="https://dice.camp/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a> 😅 FML<a href="https://dice.camp/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a>

StephI just had a full on panicking, crying <a href="https://mastodon.scot/tags/AutisticMeltdown" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#AutisticMeltdown</a> just before I'm due to go on stage as a panto villain at a community drama group for people with MH issues, which I guess makes it surprisingly appropriate?Anyway I feel like shit and want to go home. At least the heating in the quiet room is working unlike where we are actually performing.<a href="https://mastodon.scot/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autism</a> <a href="https://mastodon.scot/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="https://mastodon.scot/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Autistic</a> <a href="https://mastodon.scot/tags/MentalIllness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#MentalIllness</a> <a href="https://mastodon.scot/tags/MentalHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#MentalHealth</a>

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