I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.

I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".

Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"

Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..

But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?

Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.

It's interesting how it's always the men with the "LordMasterDivineDomlyGod" names who make declarations of how sadism/masochism works for everyone*, and when you question what they've said they decide you're the one being stubborn and ignorant?

Like, my guy.. my little guy, it's ok that other people experience things in different ways to you. It's really ok.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

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* brought to you by the ever pervasive bullshit idea that sadists are naturally dominant and masochists are naturally submissive, because sadism is active and dynamic, but masochism is passive and receptive.

Him:
I'm in security. I'm a consultant.

Me:
OK, well I don't play with anyone who is a cop or works cop-adjacent, like in security companies.

Him:
Umm well actually it's finance security. I'm not a security guard

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1. You said security, my guy.
2. That's not really any better.
3. Still not interested.

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I run a local kink group on Facebook, and in November called someone in about being a chaser.. they decided to leave instead of engaging with the conversation about how chasing and the fetishisation of trans bodies is actually transphobia. After they left I attached a ban to their account so they couldn't rejoin and start shit because I had a feeling...

They've just tracked me down on Fetlife - 5 months later - and started drama in multiple groups there about it ("you banned me for no reason!"), posting in groups I'm in and commenting on threads I've posted in.

...but I made a mistake for banning them?

Hi! I am a #demisexual passive #switch with a big passion for men with a #servicekink, #dominant or #submissive, and a little passion for other genders.
My languages are German and English.

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